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McKinney-Vento, Homeless Resources

Homelessness is not something that has to affect your child’s education. Even if you lack a permanent residence, your children can receive help to stay in their home school district.

The McKinney-Vento Homeless Assistance Act is a law that helps your child if you do not have a permanent home to stay in by providing school stability for your child. This Act is support for those who are without a permanent residence and are:

  • Staying with friends or family because you lost housing.
  • Living in a shelter, including transitional programs.
  • Staying in motels because you cannot get your own home.
  • Living on the streets, in a car, van, tent or other non-permanent structure. 

For additional information and resources, please click on the links below:

  • Homeless students’ rights
  • A Parent’s Guide to the Rights of Children and Youth Experiencing Homelessness
  • IDOE McKinney-Vento: Homeless Children & Youth Program webpage
  • Information for School-Age Youth
  • P-H-M Residency Form
  • St. Joe County Homelessness Resources
  • Directory of State and Federal Resources
  • Available Community Events and Activities
  • Overcoming Obstacles: Support for Homeless College Students

Questions about homeless students should be directed to Derrick White at (574) 258-9505 or email Derrick White at dwhite2@phm.k12.in.us.

You can also contact the IDOE state coordinators: Flora Jones, Director of Student Pathways & Opportunities and Charie Gibson, Homeless Education Specialist, 317-232-0957, McKinneyVentoPOC@doe.in.gov. 

P-H-M Middle School Cultural Exchange Program

P-H-M Middle School Cultural Exchange Program
March 27 – April 4, 2019

One of the many educational value adds that Penn-Harris-Madison students have a chance to encounter are travel abroad experiential learning opportunities. Every other spring break, students from all three middle schools (Discovery, Grissom and Schmucker) are given the amazing chance to travel to China. P-H-M Discovery Middle School Principal Sheryll Harper established the exchange program with Lishan school district in Anshan, China in 2008, trips began in 2009.  The next trip is planned for March 27 – April 4, 2019.

The curriculum based immersion trip engrosses the students in Chinese culture during the one week plus trip. The curriculum was developed by P-H-M educators and meets Indiana state Social Studies educational standards. It is well timed and coordinates to when the middle school students are studying ancient and modern day China in their Social Studies classes. Students must be in good discipline standing to participate. 

To get a student perspective on the trip, click below to watch the video.

The P-H-M Education Foundation made available for the first time in January 2018 two (2), $2,500 travel grants which will be awarded to two (2) qualified current P-H-M 6th and 7th grade students for participation in the Spring 2019 Middle School China Immersion Trip.

For more information on the the trip, please email Mr. James Howard or Mrs. Sheryl Harper for details. 

 

 

2025 Youth Theater Camp

Youth Theater Camp

Click for online registration through phm.revtrak.net starting April 14 at 10:00 a.m. 

Pick one or both of these one-week, half-day camps designed for students entering grades 5-8 in the Fall 2025, who are interested in performance and stage work or those who just want to build self-confidence. Each camp will be filled with fun activities including games, exercises, improvisations and scene work.

Participate in creative games and exercises designed to build confidence and imagination.
• Create improvisational skits and games to help increase individual spontaneity.
• Work together in small groups on short plays with the purpose of creating fun characters and stories.
• Enjoy a fun, creative, spontaneous atmosphere that builds confidence and nurtures stage skills.
• Learn the basics of utilizing space, movement, voice and imagination.


Location: Elsie Rogers Elementary School

Session I: June 16 – 20 (9:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m.)
Session II: July 21 – 25 (9:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m.)

The camp is $90 per student and includes a t-shirt.

REGISTRATION INFORMATION:

  • Registration will be online through phm.revtrak.net starting on April 14 at 10:00 a.m. 
  • Follow the directions to create an account, select the camp you would like for your child/children, and then register them individually.
  • Make an online payment using eCheck, Discover, MasterCard or Visa credit/debit card. There is a 3.49% fee for using this service.​

For more information, please contact the Community Education Office at (574) 258-9568 or via email.

Penn Spring Volleyball Clinic

Receive individual coaching from Penn Volleyball staff and Coach Sarah Hendricks, who coached the Kingsmen to a state title and a former Lady Kingsmen state champion herself.

 

WHO: any students currently in grades 6, 7 and 8th grades

 

WHAT: Camp registration is now open!

 

WHEN: Saturdays (Feb. 18, Feb. 25, March 4, March 18 and March 25),
4:00-7:00 p.m.

 

WHERE: Penn High School Arena

 

COST: $100 for five sessions, and $60 for three sessions (cost includes t-shirt)

*We realize due to club or other circumstances students may not be able to make every session. Please choose the 3 or 5 session package. If you can’t make it to all sessions that is fine, we still want you to come for those that you can! Please remember to check the dates you will be attending in the registration form below.

 

Questions, please click here to email Coach Hendricks.

 

 

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Kindergarten Registration

Kindergarten Registration

Registration for kindergarten students for 2026-2027 is open!

Penn-Harris-Madison School Corporation is excited to welcome our newest learners, the P-H-M Class of 2039! Kindergarten registration for the 2026-2027 school year opens at each P-H-M elementary school on: Tuesday, January 20, 2026.

Children must be five-years-old on or before September 1, 2026 to enroll in kindergarten.

P-H-M offers a strong start with caring teachers, engaging classrooms, and a school experience that supports every child’s academic growth and overall development from day one.

We offer families the convience of online registration with their student’s future school. Click below for directions.


Why Choose P-H-M for Kindergarten?

Kindergarten is a big milestone and where your child begins that journey matters. At P-H-M, families can feel confident they’re choosing a district with:

✅ Full-Day Kindergarten at all 11 elementary schools
✅ Highly qualified, caring teachers and supportive school staff
✅ A focus on early literacy, math, and foundational learning skills
✅ Positive, safe, welcoming school environments
✅ Student support services and onsite health services
✅ Strong partnerships with families to help students thrive

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Who Can Register?

  • Live within the P-H-M district AND
  • Children five-years-old on or before September 1, 2026
  • A parent or guardian must register their child. 

Find Your Elementary School

  • Penn-Harris-Madison has 11 elementary schools, and every neighborhood is served by a designated “home school.”
  • Families may use the our interactive Google based District Map to verify which school serves their address
  • If your house is outside of P-H-M’s boundaries, you might still be able to attend P-H-M! Check this page on the P-H-M website.

What You’ll Need to Register

  • Each child entering kindergarten at P-H-M must complete a Registration Packet.
    • You will also need to provide:
    • Child’s birth certificate
    • Immunization records
    • Two proofs of Indiana residence
      • Current mortgage/lease statement
      • Current utility bill

Register Online (Recommended)

  • We have created an easy way for you to complete the registration process electronically.
    • Please click here for registration forms at your home school.
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Registration Packet Info (Printable Option)

If you are unable to complete the initial registration forms online, families may print forms and submit them to the school office.

The Registration Packet includes:

  • Registration Form
  • Home Language Survey Form
  • Transportation Add/Change/Withdrawal Form
  • Click Here for Registration Packet

Important Reminders for Incoming Kindergarten Families

1.  Immunization Requirements

Immunizations protect your child and help keep schools healthy for everyone. Under Indiana Public Law, when a child enrolls in school the parent/guardian must provide written proof that the child is fully immunized as required by the Indiana State Department of Health.

📌 Immunization paperwork must be submitted to your school office before the first day of school.

Immunizations may be obtained from:

  • Your family doctor

  • St. Joseph County Health Department

  • Other area clinics

For resources, please contact your school’s health office.

  • The schools’ onsite healthcare services are provided by trained SJRMC personnel, who are prepared to help you with medical concerns and questions about medications at school. 

 


Related enrollment questions


RESIDENT STUDENTS WHO WISH TO CHANGE SCHOOLS

  • Any student who is a resident of the district and wishes to attend a P-H-M school other than his/her home school, must complete and submit an internal transfer request form. Click here for the Internal Transfer Request Form. Incoming kindergarten students must first enroll at their home schools before submitting an internal transfer request for a different school. While admission to a child’s home school is assured, transfer placement is not. Approval is based on the number of requests received and the space available. Transfer decisions will be announced later in the spring. 

NON-RESIDENT STUDENTS WHO WISH TO APPLY FOR ADMISSION

  • Non-resident students seeking admission to kindergarten, or any other grade level, must check this page on the P-H-M website.

 

School Closings & Delays Procedures

Safety is our #1 priority when a conversation about closing or delaying school takes place.

The decision must take into consideration early morning conditions as well as projections for the rest of the day. And because the district is large—135 square miles!—those conditions can vary greatly from north to south. State regulations do not allow us to close some schools and keep others open. So, while the weather may not affect everyone, the decision to delay or close our schools does. 

As part of the Indiana law HB-1093, schools are limited to three days of eLearning.  P-H-M Teachers Association works collaboratively with P-H-M Administration to plan the school year calendar.  Penn-Harris-Madison School Corporation will use, if warranted, three weather related days as needed throughout the year.  If additional makeup days are required, they will be added to the end of the school year after the tentative last day of school.  Principals will communicate with parents eLearning expectations and possible calendar adjustments throughout the year.

Ultimately, the responsibility for deciding whether to send children to school during inclement weather rests with parents. If you believe conditions are unsafe and choose to keep your child home on a day when school is in session, please contact the school that day. The absence will be recorded as excused and, in accordance with Indiana’s updated attendance law, will not negatively impact your child’s attendance record for the school.

Click to see how, when and what factors into our decision makings for 2-hour delays and closings. Please also watch the video below …

How is the decision made to delay or close schools?

A network of people are involved in gathering information, often starting at 4:30 a.m. or earlier. Designated staff members drive the roads in the north and south and central parts of the district, others confer with local law enforcement and road crews, some are responsible for checking in with neighboring school districts, while others study the weather forecasts.

Based on all available information provided by staff and other resources, the Superintendent makes the final determination.

While it’s a rare occurrence, authorities sometimes declare a state of emergency or impose road closures which require the district to close. In these cases, the decision is made for us!

What factors into the decision?

Safety is the number one priority for P-H-M. This requires us to consider current conditions, as well as projections for the rest of the day. A primary concern is that roadways be safe and passable by both cars and buses throughout the day. When it comes to snow removal, subdivisions and cul-de-sacs can be especially challenging, and drifting snow often presents a problem in the rural areas. Of course, fog and ice are treacherous for all.

Timing is also a consideration. It can take several hours to clear and de-ice the sidewalks and parking lots at 20 school and service buildings throughout the district before staff and students can arrive. 

P-H-M Administration also follows a decision making process when considering closings or delays on cold winter weather mornings. Please click here for information.

When to delay and when to close?

Either way, we are very aware how families’ schedules and daycare arrangements are affected! A two-hour delay may be called when indications are that the weather conditions will improve shortly.

Please note parents should not drop off students when school is delayed or canceled for any reason until approved scheduled times.  School buildings remain locked until they are scheduled to open.

Ultimately the responsibility of deciding whether to send children to school or keep them home rests with parents. If you deem conditions are not safe, and choose to keep your child home when school is in session, you must contact the school that day and the absence will be marked excused.  


Here’s what parents need to know to prepare for closings or delays:

Kids Club, our before and after school child care program for elementary students, opens at 6:30 a.m. We have staggering start times for elementary, middle and high school. Therefore, it becomes necessary to notify all parents of a delay or closing no later than 6:00 a.m.

NOTIFICATION

  • The notification process is designed to let all members of our community know no later than 6:00 a.m.

  • ParentSquare and StudentSquare, an app that offers texting and emailing service, are P-H-M’s primary means of notification.  PLEASE VISIT THIS PAGE for steps on how to download the ParentSquare app, and this page for information on the StudentSquare app and set your notification preferences. Please note that parents and students can selecte to receive a text message, email or notification through the ParentSquare or StudentSquare app. Parents can change their options to receive text messages or emails as many times as they wish. To update your phone number and email address, please use Skyward or contact your child(ren)’s school(s).

  • These local broadcast television stations are informed: WSBT, WNDU, and ABC 57.

  • The announcement is also posted on the District’s website, Facebook, and Instagram.

  • If schools are closed, then students will have an eLearning Day. Click for details.

TWO-HOUR DELAY SCHEDULE

  • A two-hour delay may be called when indications are that the weather conditions will improve later in the morning

  • Buses will run their normal routes with pick-up times two hours later than normal. The Here Comes the Bus app can be helpful to use on 2-hour delay days so that you are notified when your child’s bus is approaching the bus stop.

  • This is the list of all P-H-M schools’ 2-hour delayed start times, along with other information about school drop-off times and school meals

  • Schools will end at their normal time

  • Please reference the programs below to see how they are affected when schools are delayed:

    • Morning Kids Club (the District’s before- and after-school childcare program) is CANCELED.

    • Morning PennPALS Preschool will be CANCELED on 2-hour delay days. Afternoon classes will be held as normal.

    • Early Learning Academy Preschool program, full-day will operate on a 2-hour delay

    • Head Start is a full day program, so it will operate on a 2-hour delay.

SCHOOL CLOSING

  • When schools are closed, after-school and evening activities are also canceled
  • Coaches and sponsors will make announcements about rescheduling their events
  • Kids Club does not operate, morning or afternoon, on days when school has been canceled

eLEARNING

*As part of the Indiana law HB-1093, schools are limited to three days of eLearning.  P-H-M Teachers Association works collaboratively with P-H-M Administration to plan the school year calendar.  Penn-Harris-Madison School Corporation will use, if warranted, three weather related days as needed throughout the year.  If additional makeup days are required, they will be added to the end of the school year after the tentative last day of school.  Principals will communicate with parents eLearning expectations and possible calendar adjustments throughout the year.

Click here for more information on how you and your student will access eLearning lessons.

eLearning

eLearning is an alternative to classroom instruction. With eLearning, students access their schoolwork online and complete the lessons outside the classroom. 

The Indiana Department of Education has approved eLearning as a way to make up missed instruction on days when schools must close due to snow or other weather conditions. As part of the new Indiana law HB-1093, schools are limited to three days of eLearning. P-H-M Teachers Association worked collaboratively with P-H-M Administration to plan for this school year. 

Penn-Harris-Madison School Corporation will use, if warranted, three weather related eLearning days as needed throughout the year.  If additional makeup days are required, they will be added to the end of the school year calendar.  Principals will communicate with parents eLearning expectations and possible calendar adjustments throughout the year.  Click here to see the full school year calendar. 

eLearning is adaptable for students who use special education services and those who participate in the English as a New Language program.


Elementary Students use Google Classroom to access eLearning assignments

If you are an elementary parent and do not have access to a computer or laptop at home for your elementary school student, your student’s school will make Chromebooks available to families. Communication on how to borrow a Chromebook from P-H-M is provided by your child’s school around late October/early November. Elementary teachers will provide eLearning lessons on Google Classroom

  • Click here to access Google Classroom instructions

Middle & High School Students use their Chromebooks to access eLearning assignments on Canvas

Canvas is the program where middle & high school classwork is posted online. Canvas runs on any browser (Internet Explorer, Chrome, Firefox) and does not require downloading or installation. In most cases students will have from two days (middle and high school) to five days (elementary) to complete the work assigned to them on an eLearning day. Teachers will be available via email and Canvas messaging to answer questions and help students on eLearning days. 

We encourage parents to test their Canvas log-ins now and become familiar with the program before the snow starts flying!

  • Click here to access Canvas instructions

All eLearning lessons are created and posted by the students’ own teachers, and the teachers review all eLearning completed by students, providing them with grades, scores, or feedback, as appropriate. 

P-H-M parents are issued Skyward log-in information in a letter sent by the school. Use your Skyward credentials (username and password) on the Canvas log-in page to access your student’s information. For instructions on how to connect your Skyward and Canvas log-ins, please click here.

Get help with your Skyward & Canvas accounts by emailing familyaccess@phm.k12.in.us.

Need more help?

Watch the slideshow above, then visit the Canvas Help Page!

 

 

Mental Health Resources

Please click here for resources to help you understand and help your student better manage stress.

The Division of Mental Health and Addiction recommends that if there are Hoosiers who feel distress or anxiety due to the pandemic, please call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s Disaster Distress Helpline at 1-800-985-5990.

This hotline will provide live crisis counseling…it is is toll-free, multi-lingual and confidential. 

If you our a loved one are in distress, or need prevention and crisis resources, you can call the​ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by just dialing 988 on your phone.

The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support. If you or a loved one are at immediate risk of suicide or self-harm, you can also call 911.

For teens who’d rather text for help, these resources are available:

  • Crisis Text Line: text START to 741-741
  • Families First of Indiana: text CSIS to 839863
  • Trevor Project: text Trevor to 1-202-304-1200 
  • Substance Abuse & Mental Health Service: text “TALKWITHUS” to 66746

Click here for a list of local mental health resources in the Michiana area.

In Indiana, you can also contact Look Up Indiana online at lookupindiana.org or by calling the crisis line at 1-800-248-8439. 

For teens who are suffering in silence and are looking for help and information, a number of resources are available on ReachOut.com.

 

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Who considers suicide?

A: In general, people (of all ages) who are depressed or having trouble coping with their feelings may consider suicide if they don’t have other coping skills. People of all ages, races, faiths, and cultures die by suicide, as do individuals from all walks of life and all income levels. Both popular, well-connected people who seem to have everything going for them and those who are less well-off die by suicide. Suicidal youth come from all kinds of families, rich and poor, happy and sad, two-parent and single-parent. It is really important to understand that suicidal behavior knows no boundaries.

Q: Can a teen really be suicidal? They haven’t lived long enough to know what real
problems are!​

A: In part, that is exactly the problem. It is widely believed that childhood is free from the stress and problems of adult life and is a time for fun. However, the world is a much different place now than it was when you were a teenager. We live in an information packed and highstress society. Competition for college acceptance and jobs is fierce. Teens are expected to go to school full-time, participate in school activities, work twenty to twenty-five hours a week in their “part-time job,” and manage to get their chores and homework done on the side. It doesn’t leave much time for fun. Many teens don’t get enough sleep. This tends to make teens easily frustrated and angry. The expectations placed on teens in our society can be very difficult to handle, as they have not yet developed the skills needed to deal with these stresses. A loss that seems minor to an adult can feel life-threatening to teens if they cannot find a way to cope with the feelings or find a solution. Also, they feel the need to solve the problem as fast as they can in a culture obsessed with “now” (e-mail, voice mail, cell phones, pagers, etc.). For teens, each day is as big as it gets.

Q: Why do people choose to die by suicide?​

A: Suicidal behavior is one of the most complicated human behaviors. This question cannot be answered briefly. There is no research that shows that a certain set of risk factors can accurately predict the likelihood of imminent danger of suicide for any one person. It is fair to say that suicidal people are experiencing varying degrees of outside stresses, internal conflict, and neurobiological dysfunction, and these factors contribute to their state of mind. Depression, anxiety, conduct disorders, and substance abuse all contribute to the possibility of suicide, but they do not cause suicide. A “final straw” for suicide is usually the last thing that a person who kills himself or herself is thinking about, and many left behind want to blame that person or event, but the “final straw” was not the cause of the suicide. Many people who kill themselves had no final straw that others could see. The reasons behind a suicide often remain a mystery.

Q: Won’t people think I am a bad parent if my teen is suicidal?​

A: Some people may be quick to judge and not understand that given a certain set of circumstances any of us could feel suicidal. It is more likely that people will think you are a loving and caring parent if you are helping to keep your teen alive. Mental health professionals, in particular, deal with suicidal individuals every day. They understand how difficult life can be for a teen and that parents cannot protect their children from all the stress in the world. What you can do is listen to your teen and take action when he or she cannot. Take care of your teen.

Q: Every time I ask, my teen tells me that I won’t understand. How can I help her to talk?​

A: Acknowledge that you might not understand, but that you care very much and you will try to understand. Also keep in mind that this phrase tends to be used when teens can’t explain how they feel. Another option is to tell her you understand she doesn’t want to talk to you, but would she agree to talk about it with someone else, like a counselor? If she agrees, make sure to follow up on it; you can even make the initial call yourself if she wants you to.

Q: My teenager listens to horrible music. I’m worried that the violent lyrics will make him kill himself.​

A: While you may not like your teen’s choice in music, it is unlikely to make him kill himself if that was not already an issue. In fact, for most teens, music, even violent music, may actually allow them to vent some of their anger and frustration and help them to feel better. However, there are situations where a teenager who is already feeling depressed or feeling alienated may choose a certain type of music that can make those feelings stronger. Discuss your concerns with your teen and make a deal that if he feels like hurting or killing himself that he will talk to you.

Q: How can I help my child not to feel suicidal?

A: This begins by talking about suicide before it becomes an issue and the teen is in crisis. We need to acknowledge that suicide is an option that teens consider and open the channels of communication so that teens have somewhere to turn where they know they will be understood. One of the major reasons why teens don’t turn to adults is that they feel they will not be understood. The Web site of the Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide (www.sptsnj.org) can help to educate you about suicide and what you can do.

Q: I think my child may be suicidal. What do I say to him?​

A: Suicide can be a difficult topic to discuss, especially with teens. Some possible conversation starters include:

  • You haven’t seemed like yourself recently. What’s been going on?
  • I know that some difficult things have happened recently. I’m concerned about how you’re feeling.

Once you’ve opened up conversation, it’s important to ask directly about suicidal intent. The following questions may be useful: 

  • Do you feel like things will never get better?
  • Have you been feeling like killing yourself is an answer to your problem?
  • Have you ever thought about suicide? Are you suicidal now?

If your child is suicidal, it is important to remove all lethal means from the household and get help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) can be accessed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and will help you to determine what type of intervention is necessary. Even if your child does not indicate that he or she is feeling suicidal, seeking out help is always an option—from a school counselor, professional counselor, clergy person, and so forth.

Q: What should I do if my teen is talking about killing herself?

A: Lifelines recommends you follow the same three basic suicide intervention steps that have been outlined for school faculty, staff, and students:

  1. Show you care: listen carefully.
  2. Ask about suicide: ask directly in a caring, nonconfrontational way.
  3. Get help: stay with the person; call your local crisis line, the national hotline, or other source of help.

What Can Parents Do?

Parents can become informed about the warning signs of suicide that they may see in their teens or their teens’ friends.

These are general signs that a teen may be troubled. There is no list of definite, specific signs that a teen may be thinking about hurting himself or herself. Parents should not hesitate to err in the direction of over- versus underreacting. Warning signs are listed on the FACTS sheet you received. 

In addition to these warning signs, parents should monitor teens’ computers to see if they are accessing or developing Web sites with themes of death or destruction. It is important to understand that suicide is a crisis in communication. When you sense that your teen is troubled, what will probably help the most is to have already established helpful patterns of communication. Here are ways to establish and maintain communication between you and your teen:
 
  1. Create occasions for communication.
    • No TV during dinner.
    • At times, no radio in the car.
    • Do chores together.
    • Stop by just before bedtime—teens are more relaxed and less guarded at this time.
    • Share information about your day and feelings. (Often parents don’t engage in small talk with their kids. Instead most of their communication consists of questions and “tidying up” kids’ behavior.)
    • Find common interests/activities.
  2. When you talk with your teen:
    • Really listen.
    • Try to understand his or her viewpoint first, before trying to provide an alternate viewpoint.
    • Accept your teen’s feelings and concerns rather than evaluate. (Avoid statements such as “You shouldn’t get upset over that!” and “If you had made a decision earlier, this wouldn’t have happened!”)
    • Don’t minimize. (Avoid statements such as “Everyone feels that way.” and “Don’t let little things like that get to you.”)
    • Recall that your teen sees his or her experience as unique. Acknowledge this and then let him or her know that others may have also struggled with these concerns.
    • Don’t compare your teen with siblings, other kids, or your childhood.
    • Don’t overreact. (Avoid statements such as “How could you think something like that?”)
    • Pause; take a deep breath and listen.
    • Have definite standards and limits, but follow the rule of minimum conformity. That is, decide on the absolute minimum requirements for behavior, talk, dress, and so forth, and let the rest go. You can’t enforce these anyway, and the more requirements you have, the less influence you have.
  3. Be aware of the pressures and expectations you place on your child. Clearly, kids must learn to stick it out and develop discipline, but each achieves in his or her own way and at different paces. It is difficult to walk the line between preparing kids for life’s pressures and adding too much pressure of your own in regard to school, sports, achievement, appearance, manners, and so forth.
  4. Be aware of demands kids place on themselves. This may be a very important source of stress for teens.
  5. Follow this simple rule from Dr. Hiam Ginott, author of Between Parent and Child: “Acknowledgment always precedes advice or directives.” (For example, “I know that college was very important to you and I can see this is very upsetting, but let’s look at some other alternatives.” or “I see that Tom meant a lot to you. This is hard, but I’m wondering if you’re not being a bit hard on yourself.”)

If your child seems troubled or makes a seemingly out-of-the-blue comment about harming himself or herself, don’t worry about taking it too seriously. Sit your child down, let him or her know of your concern, and say that you would rather overreact than underreact and that you will always respond to such behavior or statements. 

If you are unsure of how to respond to your child, talk to another adult whom you trust: another parent, school personnel, clergy or religious leader, or a mental health provider. Then decide on a specific course of action. 

Remember that it is difficult for parents to imagine that their teens could feel so bad that suicide is a possible alternative. But recall that parents of teens who have died by suicide all say that they also felt this way, and they urge parents to listen and take action.

The final point in regard to parents’ responsibilities has to do with two facts: (1) much of teen suicide is more impulsive than adult suicide, and (2) the primary method of teen suicide is firearms. Thus, restricting access to means is an important way to prevent suicide. For now, this may mean keeping firearms locked up, but this is not foolproof. Clearly, if a teen is depressed or anxious, or is exhibiting impulsive behavior, guns should be removed from the house.

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